Narcissism

What's funny is when you love yourself, you actually forget all about yourself. You don't spend time worrying about yourself, thinking about yourself, or staring at yourself. You just love others.

Actually, it's not so much about loving yourself as letting someone love you. There's some sort of security in that - when someone else loves you, you can stop worrying about loving yourself so much.

I think this is exactly what Jesus is talking about in Matthew 16:25: "whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it." Self-love is not trying to feel good about yourself even though you know you're a scumbag. It's letting someone else love you and getting lost in that.